DEALING WITH PARANOIA

At one point in the relationship, u will feel insecure about your spouse.
If that insecurity isnt handle well, it might escalate and lead to
breakups and divorce. here are some tips on how to handle paranoia.

• Restructure your thoughts about your
spouse to make them positive. If a spouse is
always suspicious and snooping around their
partners, chances are that they will always
get hurt. This is because in the real sense,
they are looking for evidence ‘to make them
hurt!
• Build trust in your relationship. Avoid such
small panics such as they’re late, they didn’t
pick your call. Believe you know them better
than anybody else and you know what they
can or cannot do.
• Discuss your insecurity with your spouse.
This may look embarrassing but let them
know that you are insecure and elaborate the
reasons. This may make them stop behaving
in the way that makes you insecure.
• Build your self-esteem. Doubts that you’re
inadequate for your spouse can make you
tremble with insecurity. You will always be
seeing the other people worthier than you.
Building your self-esteem will make you
confident that you are the best for your
spouse.
Njiru Boniface a divorce lawyer in Nairobi
advises a couple to:
• Consult a marriage counsellor or a religious
leader in case your relationship is threatened
or shaky.
• Embrace dialogue and proper
communication. After talking, a couple may
realise there was nothing to be insecure
about after all!
• Take a little more time to learn your spouse
— know how they respond to different
circumstances and situations, and understand
their profession and what it entails.
• Give a benefit of doubt. If you haven’t
caught your spouse red-handed and you are
basing your accusations only on fertile
imaginations, you will bruise your
relationship.
• Know and play your role well in your
relationship. Be confident that the tw
• Avoid being petty and be clear in sending
your love signals to your partner.